Friends are family, though not DNA related, is special that way. This is why choosing the right people to be friends with and forever love is essential. Unlike family, having the right friend is an option. Keeping them also takes a lot of effort. For the relationship to grow, all parties need to devote time, effort, care and a whole lot of patience. Friendship doesn’t grow strong overnight, the same concept with marriage or living in together.
I often hear and see people getting hurt when their friends betray them. Some introverts cry over their pain and most extroverts shout it all out on all possible medium. Misunderstandings can happen, after all, you are different people with different personalities. Why it happened is often a mystery. Pride is the usual cause of feud. I think in all relationships. But unlike other relationship, friendship does not have the strength of obligation that most of us hold on to. Families stay together because each have a social and moral obligation, and for most dependency is there. Most friendships is free of that. The door of friendship has that sign “You are free to go”. This is why friendship is my favorite kind of relationship. No expectations, no obligations, no contracts.
True intentions. I am a believer of goodness. I respect people who respect themselves. Probably the single most important character I look at a person is their good intention. It is imperative that we keep good people around as they bring out the good in us. I am bad with relationships, most often I give up easily on almost everyone. I didn’t care if someone tells stories about me and spreads it like a disease, what mattered were my realities and if I am atoned to those. It sure does bother sometimes, but after a little while what others think of me will remain their business not mine. But when those stories are from a friend, I wonder where things go wrong. Most of the time, I wouldn’t know the answer, because my pride always tells me let it go. Did I lose good friends? Maybe I did, maybe it was all for good.
Today, I am surrounded with great people. They are my reality. They are what makes every struggle, pain and doubts become joy. Friends, we choose them. We must make an effort to keep them. Reach out, spend time. Have a dinner, some chitchat.