Children and Solving Problems

My almost 6-year old daughter is out on the streets today with her 3-wheeler small bike. It took her 2 years to figure out how to paddle and finally be able to enjoy it. She was then approached by 7-year old Eya, a neighbor who has been interested with her and wanted to be friends with Kyrzten. Years ago when she tried to play with her, Kyrzten did not even respond nor dared to look. When at 1 time we were out the streets, Eya persuaded Kyrzten to play hide and seek. But Kyrzten do not know the concept of the game nor its mechanics so Eya ended up hiding Kyrzten so she can find her. It was fun for Kyrzten; and Eya at such a young age amazingly thought of such option- though sometimes she can become rough.

Kyrzten can be dominated by anyone because she grew up very obedient. Her being in the Autism Spectrum have brought everyone in the family uber protective of her. Her innocence and beauty brings kindness and gentleness. I have noticed Eya to be the kind of child I was used to being around when I was little. The kids who wants to get what they want. Kyrzten has learned to compromise though I know she doesn’t understand the word yet nor does she know she is manifesting such trait. I understand she wanted to make friends. When Eya pushed her and takes control of Kyrzten’s own stuff while at play, I try not to meddle. I observed that as Kyrzten gives way, Eya realizes that she also has to be fair and decides they take turns.

Children, just like the rest of us has their own ways of overcoming their challenges.   I am always at bay watching over Kyrzten, she needs that freedom with close monitoring. I am like that spy, at close watch. Children’s cute little problems is very interesting to witness but I seldom see them catfight about it nor resort to not talk to  each other, at least the ones Kyrzten play with. They disagree but agree to take turns. They are such forgiving beings. 

This has been a productive day for Kyrzten after she’s helped me with our little garden, sorting stones from the soil so it would help our plants grow. I really pray and hope that she’d grow to be a good citizen of this world and that she’d manage to overcome the challenges that will come her way. The world can never become less complicated than it is today but that doesn’t mean she can’t be (less complicated). 😊


Published by monalisachong

Every one agrees that life is fleeting. And that life is change. It never stays the same. I am a believer of choice, of opportunities embraced and lost, I dictate what happens to me. This makes me hopeful, makes me dream, gives me courage and clears my realm. And I hope to share how change affects my life.

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