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Doc Sahlee

We just had a trip to the doctor today as my youngest was having a hard time with runny nose, colds and cough. Even though we’ve bought over-the-counter medicines, I still feel uncomfortable giving medicines that’s not prescribed by her pediatrician. She’s the doctor of both my daughters and I call her Doc Sahlee.

Because I had to bring my youngest daughter to Doc Sahlee I had to inform school that my eldest can’t be anywhere but home. There was a disruption in the household as my husband’s grandmother was also in the hospital being looked after by the family members. We never had a nanny so when emergencies come up, we had to make do and make adjustments.

Normally, waiting for a doctor’s appointment can take hours and hours but today we were lucky that the list isn’t long. Our turn came 15 minutes after we arrived. While Doc Sahlee was doing her routine check up, listening to Gabe’s chest, hear her heartbeat, looked at both her ears and had her open her cute little mouth- we were also having small talks about life. We seldom see each other except when the kids get viruses and bacteria one after another which no mom would ever want. She asked me how things have been and I told her how recently I had a breakdown and that I got myself overwhelmed with everything that has been thrown at me. She listened like a good doctor would and told me, “Say no. Just say, no”. Told me that there would always be sacrifices built around wanting to achieve something in life. All these are not new to me but those words coming from a mother whose profession is far more important* than mine, and who took a backseat saying no to conferences abroad, to symposiums and all other activities to take care of her children and her husband- it was a breath of fresh air.

Many people I know in the corporate world has had issues with sacrifices, of what to sacrifice and trying to solve the work-life balance enigma. Always trying to console the self that the sacrifice of being away from family and children is worth it and that being at work for 15 hours in a day equates to love, as such is working hard. I am beginning to believe that those people who’ve already made choices of bringing children unto the world does not have that kind of luxury to even begin with. There aren’t easy choices but only sacrifices to be made. And we must be willing to accept that these sacrifices are necessary and that the children nor the partner shouldn’t be guilty of us taking a backseat for them nor us thinking that they owe us. And if we decide to do the other thing and sacrifice the kids or the partner or the friends and the family then we must be willing to accept the repercussions of not having the most memorable time with those we love and shouldn’t blame ambition and dream for it for we made the choice. After all, time will continue to pass us by and we have the control over how we use it.

After the prescription paper and saying the many thank yous, I kind of appreciated Doc Sahlee more. I just realized that she has become one of those people I truly believe, trust and appreciate.

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*I said more important because saving lives and terminating people has huge difference in impact I suppose. But these two have different meanings to us, so both are still incomparable in a sense.
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Understanding Functions

I am writing this while class is ongoing. I know it’s not good, I don’t believe in multi-tasking. It is not effective but surprisingly has become addicting. So I am writing this piece with a whole lot discussion going on, an idea when it arrives sometimes I find it compelling.

Discussed in class topics like how to think, act and become a strategist like a CEO- has given me a lot of insights but it’s becoming clear too that the job is scary. It is a very demanding and difficult job. An ambition to be taken with caution.

Anyway, an idea popped into my head while the professor was talking about strategies, integration and levels of responsibilities in leadership- I just realized that while one begin to understand his/her role in an organization as one gains knowledge, experience and wisdom; the gap will also widen with the people she/he works with. The gap I am talking about is the level from where we understand one another especially when the rate of accumulating those wisdom, knowledge and experiences is not the same. It goes with all relationship, I suppose. Misunderstanding happens when a concept/idea/information is interpreted differently. And interpretations are personal, comprises of level of maturity, experiences, emotional intelligence and interests. Interpretations stems from inside the person’s ideals, ideas, beliefs and views of the world.

Where am I driving at this? What made me write about this? In my line of work, talking to individual is the core essence of my function. From discussions on problems, giving options, coming up with solutions and compromise. The conversations we make everyday also defines relationships. When we talk to people who are not ready yet to listen to the things we have learned, what we believe and our realizations -we become misaligned. Why I think this is important? Because often I feel disheartened when I am not understood. Everyone wants to be understood but not really concern on understanding first. I remembered my Director saying, “Seek to understand”. Easier said than done as emotions always gets in the way.

My understanding have expounded, and that on how we send a message across is important. It is a must to ensure that the message will be understood. Because our level of understanding will never be the same. My function in the organization involves communicating and making others understand, may it be new processes, programs and changes and a whole lot  more. More than that, my job is also to understand the connection of the people to the organization and how I would be able to help in adding value by communicating clearly.

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Inputs needed

My own country is corrupt beyond borders, but there is still hope. I look forward to that day. So, a daughter of my friend is getting input on projects or activities that will promote camaraderie and over-all well-being of youngsters in our locality. They thought of organizing more Sports events. As my conversation with a friend deepen, I gave her my suggestion. In as much as Sports is important, it should not be the sole focus of their program. Maybe, the council can talk about other projects that will have an impact or that will help these young people in their adult life. I suggested, Career Guidance Seminar, Computer Literacy and maybe some talks about Online opportunities, I also suggested Personality Development Seminars and Self-awareness sessions. I told her that we can invite speakers, I know some. I mean, if we are going to think of these as worthless and that the young people will eventually forget. Why couldn’t I? Exposure to these can mean a lot in building the youth’s integrity and broaden their horizons. There is a world out there. I noticed that people silences themselves and succumbs to doing nothing because it’s becoming the way of life. I hope I am wrong. There will be challenges and there will be resistance, and that’s good. When people question something, it means they are moving towards understanding it better. Understanding leads to better deciding on whether it will be good for them or not.

 

So, I appeal to you, dear online geeks. What can you suggest that the young people come up with? It can be any activities, projects or advocacy.

 

Thank you for your help.

 

We are taught to love our country and love one another.
We were taught to love our country and love one another.
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My Bloggess.com Experience

Yes, I’ve been snooping around this blog and rummaging through her post, laughing and crying-also feeling envious at times for her wit.

Why is she so funny? Her humor and wit is over the roof. And I wondered why I can’t see life as funny as she does.

Well, anyway. I think it’s because of her cats. Do cat/s make one bright, blunt and funny? But I’m scared of cats, and I don’t know if I can handle having one. If it’s the cats, then I’d probably die taking this envy feeling to my grave. *doing the cross sign*

I found this video for the first time on her site. If you’re an honest woman, you’d admit you can relate to this! Oh man!

I wonder if her book has reached the Philippines shore.

😀

The Bloggess